Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Late Night Mommy

I have turned into a night owl. I am a "morning person" by nature, but I have evolved. This is not to say that I am not an early riser, because I most certainly am, due to the 6am wining, knicking, pooping, suckling 4 month old I have, who just happens to be a permanent fixture in my bed every night. She has what my husband calls, "spidey senses"; everytime I leave her side she has a complete fit. Even if Ruki appears to be in a coma-like sleep, she will jolt out of her slumber kicking and waving her arms wildly, as her inner alarm does the 'mommy come now' count down, 10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2- and if I'm lucky I wisk her into my grasp before she reaches 1 at which point she would begin this piercing scream that can be heard for miles and miles! Needless to say, Ruki is lying next to me right now sound asleep.

Some mothers will read this and proclaim, "That child is absolutely spoiled rotten!" , "She needs to be sleeping in a crib!", or my personal favorite, "Just let her cry it out." Maybe a year from now, I might head this advice, but at the tender age of four months, my daughter only has one means of conversation- crying. So if I ignore her cries, I am not teaching her to be a 'good baby', I am simply teaching her that she can't trust the one person in this world that can cure most of her problems. If she's hungry, I nurse her. If she's lonely, I cuddle her. If she's bored, I entertain her. And if she sleeps more comfortably curled up next to me, it is the least I can do. By the way, I am not the only one who believes in this theory. Just ask Dr. Sears at www.askdrsears.com and come into the light! Actually many mothers have this instinct, but some follow it and some do not. This being said, I would not advise a mother who has a baby that sleeps soundly in a crib to then move the baby into her bed- God Bless her! Babies have different personalities just like adults. DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY! But don't knock me because I am doing what is best for mine!

Initially this blog was suppose to be all about how I stay up late nights reading, writing, cleaning, and surfing the web because it is the only time baby doesn't need my constant attention, but it turned into something else! I guess I just had to get this off my chest ;-) Thanks for listening.


zara2009 said...

As a mother sometimes you have to do what is easiest for the both of you. You will be of no help to her if you your nerves are frazzled, your tired, and ready go bananas at the drop of a dime. Learn to embrace the nightlife.

phillyrose623 said...

Lucky Baby Ruki! You cannot spoil a baby. Babies are 100% dependent. You can only love them and make them comfortable and give them all the support you are able to give. This comes naturally to some moms, but not to all moms.Keep on having fun with your baby. I think that is the key. Babies grow up so quickly Enjoy!